Parental alienation is a term that is often raised in high-conflict family law matters, although it can occur in a variety of settings. It is a complex and emotionally charged issue that can have devastating consequences for children. It occurs when one parent intentionally and systematically undermines the child’s relationship with the other parent. Regardless of whether this behaviour is subtle or overt, the impact on the child can be profound.

This blog post will delve into what parental alienation is, its impact on children, and the legal ramifications of parental alienation in Alberta family law cases.

Understanding Parental Alienation

Parental alienation is more than a simple disagreement between parents. Rather, it is a pattern of behaviour by one parent aimed at turning a child against the other parent. Parental alienation occurs when one parent, often in the context of a contentious separation or divorce, attempts to turn a child against the other parent without a valid reason. This involves using tactics to manipulate the child’s feelings and create a hostile or negative perception of the targeted parent. Parental alienation can manifest in various ways, including:

• Badmouthing the other parent and consistently making negative comments about the other parent, undermining their character or parenting abilities;
• Restricting or preventing the child’s contact with the other parent, such as refusing visitation or making it difficult to schedule time together;
• Undermining the other parent’s authority by consistently questioning the other parent’s decisions or competence;
• Asking the child to report on the other parent’s conversations or activities;
• Threatening to withhold love or affection from the child if the child interacts with the other parent;
• Using the child as a messenger between parents or asking the child to deliver information to the other parent, often with negative or manipulative content;
• Creating false narratives about the other parent;
• Triangulating the child by involving them in parental conflicts and asking for their opinion or loyalty.

Parental alienation differs from parental alienation syndrome (PAS) despite the symptoms and the child’s behaviour being similar. Parental alienation focusses on how the alienating parent behaves towards the child or children and the alienated parent. In contrast, parental alienation syndrome symptoms describe the child’s behaviours and attitude towards the alienated parent.

The Impact of Parental Alienation on Children

Separation and divorce can be emotionally devastating times for parents and their children and, unfortunately, it is not uncommon for parents to engage in inappropriate behaviour with their children during this time. Parents may either knowingly or indirectly place their child in the middle of their conflict by discussing legal or financial matters with the children or speaking poorly of the other parent to, or in the presence of, the other parent. However, this type of behaviour and conduct can be extremely harmful, particularly if the child is young.

If the alienating parent successfully influences the child, the child may show signs of indifference, hostility or fear of the other (alienated) parent. The consequences of parental alienation can be severe and long-lasting, including:

• Emotional distress: Children caught in the middle of parental conflict often experience anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, guilt, and/or confusion;
• Damage to parent-child relationship: Parental alienation can sever the bond, either temporarily or permanently, between the child and the alienated parent, which can have life-long repercussions; and
• Difficulty forming healthy relationships: Children who experience parental alienation may struggle with trust and intimacy in their relationships throughout childhood and later in life.

What To Do If You Suspect Parental Alienation

If you suspect that your child is experiencing parental alienation from the other parent, it is important to take action as soon as possible. Documenting every incident of alienation, including dates, times and specific examples of the other parent’s behaviours can be useful evidence supporting your legal case. It is also important to remember to prioritize the child’s well-being and not engage in negative behaviour yourself. Finally, it is crucial to seek advice from a knowledgeable family lawyer who is experienced in dealing with parental alienation matters.

Parental alienation is a complex issue with far-reaching consequences and warrants careful consideration and quick attention in family law cases. By understanding the signs of parental alienation, seeking legal advice from a trusted family lawyer, and focusing on the child’s emotional well-being you can take steps to protect your child from such harmful behaviour.

Legal Implications of Parental Alienation in Alberta

Proving parental alienation can be difficult, however, putting forward strong evidence such as detailed records of interactions with the alienating parent, identifying witnesses who have seen the alienating behaviour, retaining family evaluation professionals and highlighting social media posts made by the alienating parent, can help support your case.

A fundamental principle in separation and divorce cases in Canada is that children should not be involved in their parents’ conflict. As such, Alberta courts take parental alienation seriously and in addressing such issues, the paramount consideration is always the best interests of the child. What the court orders to remedy parental alienation will vary depending on the child’s age and the parties’ general circumstances. Courts may take various steps to address parental alienation, such as modifying parenting plans, ordering counselling or therapy to address underlying issues, and/or imposing sanctions on the alienating parent.

Contact the Getz Collins and Associates Family Lawyers for Legal Guidance on Parental Alienation Matters

The trusted and compassionate family lawyers at Getz Collins and Associates understand that family law disputes can be complex and emotionally draining. We take the time to listen to our clients and understand their situation to develop a tailored legal strategy to address outstanding issues, including support claims, parenting disputes, and property division matters.

With offices in both Calgary and Strathmore, Getz Collins and Associates is proud to represent clients across communities, including Airdrie, Cochrane, Okotoks, Drumheller, Chestermere, Hussar, and throughout Alberta. To schedule a confidential consultation with one of our family law team members, contact us online or by phone at (587) 391-5600.